Assessment of Feelings Toward Partner

 

 

O'Leary, K. D., Turkewitz, H., & Fincham, F.  (1983).  Assessment of positive feelings

toward spouse.  Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 51, 949-951.

 

 

Below is a list of 17 questions about various feelings between married people. Answer each one of them in terms of how you generally feel about your spouse taking into account the last few months. The rating you choose should reflect how you actually feel, not how you think you should feel.

 

 

Example: How do you feel about your spouse’s honesty?

 

Extremely         Quite        Slightly      Neutral         Slightly        Quite        Extremely                

Negative         Negative     Negative                       Positive       Positive        Positive

 

      1                    2               3                4                 5                  6                   7

 

If you have generally been feeling extremely good or positive about the level of your spouse’s honesty in the past few months, then rate it as “7”, “extremely positive”.

 

Or if the level of your spouse’s honesty is something that you have generally had no feelings about either good or bad, you should rate it as a “4”, “neutral”.

 

Or if you have generally been feeling extremely bad or negative about the level of your spouse’s honesty in the past few months, then rate it as a “1”, “extremely negative”.

 

Note that there are also ratings “quite” and “slightly” for less extreme feelings.

 

 

Now, please answer each question by choosing the best number to show how you have generally been feeling in the past few months. Choose only one number for each question.

 

Extremely         Quite        Slightly      Neutral         Slightly        Quite        Extremely                

Negative         Negative     Negative                       Positive       Positive        Positive

 

      1                    2               3                4                 5                  6                   7

 

 

1. How do you feel about your spouse as a friend?…………………………   1   2   3   4   5   6   7  

 

2. How do you feel about the future of your marital relationship?………….   1   2   3   4   5   6   7

 

3. How do you feel about having married your spouse?……………… ……   1   2   3   4   5   6   7

 

4. How do you feel about your spouse’s ability to put you in a good

    mood so that you can laugh and smile?…………………………………..    1   2   3   4   5   6   7

 

5. How do you feel about your spouse’s ability to handle stress?…………..    1   2   3   4   5   6   7

 

6. How do you feel about the degree to which your spouse understands

    you?………………………………………………………………………     1   2   3   4   5   6  7

 

7. How do you feel about your spouse’s honesty?……………………    1   2   3   4   5   6  7 

 

8. How do you feel about the degree to which you can trust your  

    spouse ?……………………………………………………………… 1   2   3   4   5   6   7

 

 

Extremely         Quite        Slightly      Neutral         Slightly        Quite        Extremely                

Negative         Negative     Negative                       Positive       Positive        Positive

 

      1                    2               3                4                 5                  6                   7

 

 

 

The following 9 items (items 9-17) are in the form of statements rather than questions. However, please complete them in the same manner, remembering to base your response on how you generally feel about your spouse, taking into account the last few months.

 

 

9. Touching my spouse makes me feel…………………………………     1   2   3   4   5   6   7   

 

10. Being alone with my spouse makes me feel……………………….      1   2   3   4   5   6   7

 

11. Having sexual relations with my spouse makes me feel…………..       1   2   3   4   5   6   7

 

12. Talking and communicating with my spouse makes me feel………      1   2   3   4   5   6   7

 

13. My spouse’s encouragement of my individual growth makes me…      1   2   3   4   5   6   7

 

14. My spouse’s physical appearance makes me feel………………….      1   2   3   4   5   6   7

 

15. Seeking comfort from my spouse makes me feel………………….       1   2   3   4   5   6   7

 

16. Kissing my spouse makes me feel…………………………………       1   2   3   4   5   6   7

 

17. Sitting or lying close to my spouse makes me feel………………..        1   2   3   4   5   6   7